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My husband has admitted he is an alcoholic...how do we heal

Mon, Oct 27th 2008

During a solo visit abroad to his family, my husband finally admitted that he is in fact an alcoholic and wants to stop drinking and be less selfish. I am really happy about this as it is something I prayed for. However, he is still abroad and with his family and I am alone, with no idea when he is coming home. We have only been married 11 months, our anniversary is fast approaching. I am going to start a new job that will involve us relocating. I really want my husband to get healthy, I want to feel like I am a part of his healing, but I feel like he is rejecting my help and not wanting to face this together. Also I feel like I was good enough to be with while he was drinking and abusive, but now that he is trying to get better there is no space for me in his life and that makes me afraid and angry at the same time. Our marriage is young and I think that we should face these obstacles together and be supportive for each other. My immediate family is deceased, so he is my only family and I feel like he has not considered my needs in this equation.

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