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Is He a Narcissist?

Is he a narcissist?

I met this wonderful man 11 months ago. After me being alone with my daughter for a number of years, he was everything I could have wished for. He was gorgeous, kind, attentive, and highly educated in science.

When we first met he was getting abusive texts and calls from his ex's. I asked him what he had done to them and his reply was, "I have done nothing, they are crazy." He changed his cell phone number after that but kept all the contacts. Some texts continued, but they were ex's who were "just friends."

This started to go downhill from then. He would put me down all the time saying I am stupid, paranoid, crazy, fat,(I'm size 10), blah, blah. He would call me nasty names and shout all the time when he was drunk, which was every time he had a day off work.

He was brought up with an abusive, alcoholic father. He would then leave and say it was all my fault. I would stupidly beg him to come back and say i was sorry. I needed him in some way to heal my wounds. Why, I wonder? He told me I needed to get a grip. I used to sit and just cry and he would just laugh at me, showing no emotion.

My self confidence has been knocked, I feel sick all the time. I feel like I'm going crazy. He has gone again, for good. He is already back on dating sites and looking for a new supply. He wanted us to get married, buy a house and have kids. How can someone who apparently loved me do this? I couldn't even think of dating again the way I feel. I have had to take time off work as I can't cope. I keep crying all the time.

The doctor has put me forward for counseling. I hope it comes soon, before I do something stupid. I can't sleep, I can't talk to people, I'm just totally lost in some sort of daze.

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