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How to Deal with the Loss of Family

I am a 30 year old pregnant mother of a 2 year old. I have spent the past ten years of my life helping my elderly parents out in everyway I could. I have been very close to my father my entire life but have found my mother to be extremely destructive. She has had much trouble keeping relationships..example, stopped talking to her sister completly, her mother for ten years, my sister for 4 years. I am the youngest and geographically the closest so up until recently she relied on me for everything so she had to talk to me.

Almost a year ago my father passed. I was the only family member that was there for her during this time and I witnessed her change while grieving. About six months after my Dad died she became angry at me for not also supporting her other children ( my half siblings). Within three days she had completely disowned me - returning photos of me and all, and while doing so also rejecting my 2 year old who I believe she truly loved.

It has been almost six months since the blow out and I thought she would have cooled off by now. She has turned my only siblings against me....even though she still hasnt told me why she is really mad ( she shouldnt expect me to subsidize some middle agers because I work hard for the middle class lifestyle i lead) I have spent a birthday. Christmas and soon a birth without any natural family members.

For the most part I think that life is better without the stress and the anxiety involved with her. She has always been emotionally abusive yet I am still having troubles going from a small but complete family to absolutely no family. I don\'t wish to reconcile because I feel that it is healthier but I do need help mourning the loss of my family. What do you suggest?

PLease help.

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