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I am a beautiful girl.....so why is my boyfriend selfish in bed?

So my boyfriend and I have had so many problems. He is bi-polar for number one, so I could give you a 100 page list of all the terrible things he has said and done to me. Right now this is the issue. We have sex almost every day....but he is so selfish. He just gets off and doesn't even touch me. This happened in the past and I brought it out in the open and told him how it made me feel, but it's happening again. I just don't get it. I am a beautiful girl and a great body.....so why is he doing this? I hate having sex with him now because I feel so used and gross after. He will grab my hand and put it down there and it makes me feel so terrible. It's like "here, you do it cuz I don't feel like focusing on you." Do you have ANY idea of why he's doing this. I can't take it much longer. It's not about the sex. It's about the meaning of it.

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