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An Angry Husband

I have been married for 19 years to a verbally abusive person. I was young, pregnant, and never married before. I was his 3rd wife; it took me a while to figure out why the other two left. We have 3 sons, the eldest 17 and the youngest 7. I am a college student. I have really enjoyed the experience of college and the journey through the knowledge of learning. He resents every minute I spend away from the house and belittles me. There is not an easy way out of this situation. I have refused to have relations with him until he seeks anger therapy. He will not go. I have no job, no money, and no one in my family who is supportive. I do have friends who tell me to just go. I need a plan; I cannot drag my children from a loving home on a farm to live in low income housing. I do fear for my life should I try to go. He has often said if I try to go he will kill my pets, and I will not get one penny from him for any support. I need concrete advice. I am 43 years old, a college Junior, so it will be some time before I get a degree and a job. I am also diagnosed Manic-Depressive on meds, so if I were dropped from his insurance there could be serious problems for me there too.

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