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Am I In Danger?

My boyfriend gets violent when I get jealous. I had been married for 30 years and my ex mentally abused me so I have low self esteem. My boyfriend knows the story. He is very thoughtful and attentive. My boyfriend did mention women when I first met him and that he wanted to dress me up like a barbie doll in which I hmmm.. put him in his place. We are in our 50's with baggage of course and trying to work it all out as we do love each other. The problem is that when I get panicky if he looks at a woman too long which he does do....and I bring it up to him...he starts breaking things and hitting me. He apologizes for breaking things but not for hitting me as he said I deserve it. I have broken up with him telling him I feel unsafe with him even though I do love him. He drinks a lot when he is not with me. He doesn't drink when we are together and he isn't drinking when he gets violent. Am I right in leaving him? Should i give him more chances? I have had many bruises and have had to stay in the house for days because of it. Is this going to lead to worse danger? I am working on my self esteem but I don\t understand why he gets soooooooo violent just because i am crying and feel insecure. He knows where it is coming from. He says I don't trust him and that really gets him angry. I just don't know. thank you. Jenny

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