Self-Punishing SonMon, Feb 14th 2000
I am very worried about my 4 year old son who punishes himself whenever he thinks he is in trouble. For example: If he breaks a glass, he will say: "I am bad, I am going in time out". Then he closes himself in his room and stays there. When we go there to talk to him and say that he is not in trouble and he does not need to be in time out, he continues to insist that he should and says that he is bad. My son has always been an excellent child, very easy going. We surround him with love and we always tell him what a good boy he is and how much we love him. My husband and I rarely have to reprimand him. On the other hand, his sister is always in trouble and is always being punished. I became very worried yesterday when my son walked by me and said: "I hate myself". I tried to ask him what he meant by that but I could not get much out of him. All he said after that was: "Because I am bad" My husband is a Special Ed teacher and he seems to think our son suffers from depression. Can you please help me make some sense out this? Thank you very much.
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