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How do I empty the nest gently?

My daughter turned 30 this year. She still lives at home with me. She has no friends to speak of (except her aunt, a friend of mine and me). I want her to try living on her own but feel guilty as I envision her lonely life, working, coming home and watching TV. I've broached the subject with her recently but can't get her to talk at any length about it and even brought her to tears once. She barely squeaked out of high school (learning disabilities) and has worked in a low-paying job for 11 years. I'm no expert but think she may have a form of Asberger's Syndrome and may even be depressed. Even so, she refuses to initiate any form of therapy. She's always been a good daughter, doesn't drink or do drugs, NOTHING! I have seen therapists who have suggested that we get out the newspaper and start looking for rentals for her and just DO IT! I feel like I'm abandoning my only child and my sister and friends only reinforce my guilt over it. However, I don't want to spend the rest of my life living with my adult child. How can I make this a win-win situation?

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